How to use a Vibrator on Her
Want to make your woman want YOU more in bed? Want her to eagerly look forward to and initiate your love making sessions? Well a good way to start is by learning how to use a vibrator on her.
You may be thinking “I know how to please my woman she doesn’t need a dildo”, well you’re in fact mistaken. In this two part series the following tips will assist you in your journey on how to use a vibrator on her.
First things first, four common questions guys ask themselves:
1) Why does my girlfriend need a vibrator?
Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm —and vibrators deliver powerful, consistent stimulation like nothing else can. The extra oomph that vibrators give to the clitoris is just what many women need to come—whether alone or with a partner. 80% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Vibrators have helped many pre-orgasmic women reach that longed-for first orgasm, and have brought reliable satisfaction to many others. Vibrators can lightly massage muscles and body parts or directly stimulate her vulva. And why wouldn’t you want to be a part of that experience?
2) Will it replace me?
NO! There is nothing like a man’s touch and physical intimacy from a man however, today more and more women are introducing vibes into partner sex. Using a vibrator with your partner means a woman can enjoy all that powerful, sexy, turned-on energy you both are generating, in fact this means more sex for you! In many cases once she gets going she may not need or have interest in the vibrator. Some couples have used a vibrator to give her first ever orgasm, and then have used what they learned from that to give her orgasms in other ways.
3) How do I help her climax?
Cutting back too soon on stimulation may interrupt her orgasmic potential. Some women get hypersensitive the way most men do – if she is you will need to back off before or as she finishes. Turn the speed down slowly and gradually, rather than breaking contact with her body. Be sure to lie still and hold her after she climaxes. Kiss her gently and enjoy her orgasmic pleasure, you can bask in the moment with her as you will have reached a certain level of excitement.
4) What if I like it?
Who knows you too might enjoy the extra buzz during masturbation delivered by a vibrating penis sleeve or cock ring or a strategically placed tiny vibe. I’ve yet to have met a guy who didn’t like the feeling of a vibrator at the base of his shaft or under his “boys down south”. Have her buzz a Single Bullet or cylindrical vibe on your boys and taint. Introduce the idea of her playing with the vibe once you have pleased her and mastered the art of the “sword”.
If she has never had multiple “O’s”, but wants to try, a vibrator is a great way to learn.
Last but not least….
How to use a vibrator on her:
First try laying side by side, many women prefer this as they feel emotionally connected to you. Start by massaging her clitoris and inner labia with a gentle two-finger massage (use a dime-size amount of lubricant). Use the flat of your finger tips. Take three or four fingers, side by side and flat, and position them between her outer labia. Apply slight pressure and stroke her with one hand then place the vibrator in between her labia, over the clitoris then cup your hand over the vibrator. Speed control is very important, make sure you start the speed on slow so that you don’t over stimulate her. Then gradually turn up the speed as she peaks her Orgasm – but be sure not to turn up the speed too quickly or too high. Some women prefer full speed before orgasm however, some women may never want more than the slight buzz of a vibrator like the Juliet. Next push the vibrator, slowly and just slightly into her and hold for several minutes or push in and out gently. You can then move the vibe parallel to her labia or left to right or in a vibrator small circular motions. Listen to her commands and pay close attention to her moans. If her body movements have a rhythm, then you know she likes it.
By mastering the vibrator and learning how to please her first, you’ll find your connection and bond getting stronger and deeper emotionally. So take the time to get to know her body, think selflessly, laugh and celebrate a new beginning with vibrator play.
Don’t forget the lube:
As with all toys use a good lubricant (lube). Women vary greatly in the amount of natural wetness their bodies produce. Weather her body produces a mass amounts of natural lubrication or dry when she’s aroused, lube can enhance a sexual session. Lube helps with easy penetration and avoid any discomfort if your partner is not wet enough on her own. There are many types of lubes on the market: water-based, flavored, jelly and my favorite (multi-use) silicone lube, Eros-Bodyglide.
P.S. Saliva (spit) is NOT a substitute for lube! In most cases it is a turn off for a woman and we won’t even go into the bacteria in your mouth, not attractive and a definite “buzz kill”.
What questions do you have about using a vibrator with your lover?
Feel free to ask questions or let us know how this helped inspire and or intensified your partner play by leaving a comment.
Good Vibrations,
Lexi B.
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This is very informative. Pleasing her first makes perfect sense and I will be “warming her up” to a vibrator now that I have these tips!
ty
This article was most def a helping hand!!!
Thanks Mike for your feedback! Don’t forget to tell all your friends and stay tuned for more reviews.
We appreciate your comment Xavier, keep us posted on your experience and let us know how we can help you find the right vibe for your wife!
This article was very informative. Im going to have my honey read this so he can play with me and my toys.two heads are better than one……
Thank you for the comment luv Jeaniedream, keep us posted and let us know if it worked with your honey!