How to use a Vibrator on Her

Want to make your woman want YOU more in bed? Want her to eagerly look forward to and initiate your love making sessions? Well a good way to start is by learning how to use a vibrator on her.

You may be thinking “I know how to please my woman she doesn’t need a dildo”, well you’re in fact mistaken. In this two part series the following tips will assist you in your journey on how to use a vibrator on her.

First things first, four common questions guys ask themselves:

1) Why does my girlfriend need a vibrator?

Most women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm —and vibrators deliver powerful, consistent stimulation like nothing else can. The extra oomph that vibrators give to the clitoris is just what many women need to come—whether alone or with a partner. 80% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Vibrators have helped many pre-orgasmic women reach that longed-for first orgasm, and have brought reliable satisfaction to many others. Vibrators can lightly massage muscles and body parts or directly stimulate her vulva. And why wouldn’t you want to be a part of that experience?

2) Will it replace me?

NO! There is nothing like a man’s touch and physical intimacy from a man however, today more and more women are introducing vibes into partner sex. Using a vibrator with your partner means a woman can enjoy all that powerful, sexy, turned-on energy you both are generating, in fact this means more sex for you! In many cases once she gets going she may not need or have interest in the vibrator. Some couples have used a vibrator to give her first ever orgasm, and then have used what they learned from that to give her orgasms in other ways.

3) How do I help her climax?

Cutting back too soon on stimulation may interrupt her orgasmic potential. Some women get hypersensitive the way most men do – if she is you will need to back off before or as she finishes. Turn the speed down slowly and gradually, rather than breaking contact with her body. Be sure to lie still and hold her after she climaxes. Kiss her gently and enjoy her orgasmic pleasure, you can bask in the moment with her as you will have reached a certain level of excitement.

4) What if I like it?

Who knows you too might enjoy the extra buzz during masturbation delivered by a vibrating penis sleeve or cock ring or a strategically placed tiny vibe. I’ve yet to have met a guy who didn’t like the feeling of a vibrator at the base of his shaft or under his “boys down south”. Have her buzz a Single Bullet or cylindrical vibe on your boys and taint. Introduce the idea of her playing with the vibe once you have pleased her and mastered the art of the “sword”.

If she has never had multiple “O’s”, but wants to try, a vibrator is a great way to learn.

Last but not least….
How to use a vibrator on her:

First try laying side by side, many women prefer this as they feel emotionally connected to you. Start by massaging her clitoris and inner labia with a gentle two-finger massage (use a dime-size amount of lubricant). Use the flat of your finger tips. Take three or four fingers, side by side and flat, and position them between her outer labia. Apply slight pressure and stroke her with one hand then place the vibrator in between her labia, over the clitoris then cup your hand over the vibrator. Speed control is very important, make sure you start the speed on slow so that you don’t over stimulate her. Then gradually turn up the speed as she peaks her Orgasm – but be sure not to turn up the speed too quickly or too high. Some women prefer full speed before orgasm however, some women may never want more than the slight buzz of a vibrator like the Juliet. Next push the vibrator, slowly and just slightly into her and hold for several minutes or push in and out gently. You can then move the vibe parallel to her labia or left to right or in a vibrator small circular motions. Listen to her commands and pay close attention to her moans. If her body movements have a rhythm, then you know she likes it.

By mastering the vibrator and learning how to please her first, you’ll find your connection and bond getting stronger and deeper emotionally. So take the time to get to know her body, think selflessly, laugh and celebrate a new beginning with vibrator play.

Don’t forget the lube:

As with all toys use a good lubricant (lube). Women vary greatly in the amount of natural wetness their bodies produce. Weather her body produces a mass amounts of natural lubrication or dry when she’s aroused, lube can enhance a sexual session. Lube helps with easy penetration and avoid any discomfort if your partner is not wet enough on her own. There are many types of lubes on the market: water-based, flavored, jelly and my favorite (multi-use) silicone lube, Eros-Bodyglide.

P.S. Saliva (spit) is NOT a substitute for lube! In most cases it is a turn off for a woman and we won’t even go into the bacteria in your mouth, not attractive and a definite “buzz kill”.

What questions do you have about using a vibrator with your lover?

Feel free to ask questions or let us know how this helped inspire and or intensified your partner play by leaving a comment.

Good Vibrations,

Lexi B.

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Babeland’s Summer of Love Contest!!!

Summer Love Sex Toy Contest from Babeland!

Ok we need your help. Babeland is having a Summer Love Contest and we have to post a wishlist of $500 worth of Babeland toys that we could win! And you know what else? Babeland will be selecting a blogger with the most comments on their post to receive a $125 Babeland gift card and one of their commentors will win a $125 gift card too! So, you know what that means, right? If you want a chance to win a gift card, better get commenting on our list!!! We’re kicking ourselves for not entering sooner, but it’s not too late!

If you own a website or blog, just write a blog entry or a post with a wish list of the Babeland sex toys you covet and your orgasmic dreams just may come true. Your wish list can total up to $500 worth of products–just list the name of each product (with a link to that product on Babeland.com) and one sentence about why you lust after that toy. Submit the link to freetoys@Babeland.com and you will be entered to win sex toys! Keep them for yourself, distribute them to your readers or both.

Why wouldn’t you want a $125 gift card for fun, sexy products from the leading source in vibrators and marital aides?! It’s easy, all you have to do is comment! We know it sounds too good to be true, but there’s no catch here, no purchase or sign up necessary.

So as Sexperts you would think Angelise & I have just about everything right? So what more could we possibly need you say? Although we have tested everything from the not so desired to the crème de la crème, we do believe variety is the spice of life! Did I mention I love my job

So here are our wish list items:

The Freestyle:

The iPod Freestyle vibe from OhMiBod, just hook it up to your iPod/iPhone/mp3 player/home audio system, and thrill to the rhythmic vibrations your favorite bump-and-grind music provides or set it on manual to use like a regular vibrator. Wireless control, shower-friendly and 25-foot remote range. $130

Why it’s a lust have: I can’t live without my iPod so now Mr.Freestyle, Mr.iPod and Me will be dancing and gyrating with seven programmed vibration patterns! Perfect for the music lover in your life. Being a gadget girl myself I don’t think I’ve ever been this excited to test a new toy!

BONUS!!!…….Babeland is giving away a FREE Lube with purchase: Get a FREE $10 Downloadable Music Gift Card and 2-ounce Babelube when you enter coupon code MUSICVIBE with your purchase of Babeland’s new Freestyle Vibrator.

Athena:

The Athena’s beauty, revolutionary design and the luscious functionality of firm G-spot stimulation will hook into your most sensitive spots without fail, yet it’s lovely enough to leave out on the bedside table. This toy will make you say “oh my goddess”! $85

Why it’s a lust have: Never mind the fact that pink is my favorite color, I have been looking for a good glass dildo/g-spot stimulator forever and now I think I’ve found it! The fact that it comes in a box made for diamonds has to be a girls best friend.

Little Chroma:

This fashion-forward and whisper-quiet Little Chroma vibrator by Jimmyjane is all the buzz in Hollywood and for good reason: it’s elegant, discreet, and would never dream of sacrificing form for function. The low frequency makes the vibration feel almost massage-like and would make a great toy for new toy users or with your partner. $125

Why it’s a lust have: I love water play and with it’s discreet design this bad boy might be my new vacation B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend)!

Last but not least……

The Usual Suspects Kit:

Hot—sex toy designer Jimmyjane hits another orgasmic bullseye with a sexy kit containing the almighty trio of sex toys “Usual Suspects”: the Iconic Rabbit, the Iconic Pocket, and the Iconic Ring. These are three of the most iconic vibrators of all time: the Rabbit which is great for clit and G-spot vibration (blended orgasm), the Pocket Rocket, nice for travel and discretion and a vibrating cock ring vibe, awesome for orgasms for two. Save $18 when you buy these toys as a kit! $160

Why it’s a lust have: Icon’s will never go out of style and we think a trio of Babeland best is the ultimate “kit” every toy collector or newbie should own.

Ok so that completes our wishlist, so hurry up and head on over to Babeland and simply submit the link to your post, your name, and shipping address to: freesextoys@babeland.com to enter. That’s it! Get your entries in by August 31st, and winners will be selected on September 7th.

Sensually Yours,

Sexpert Lexi

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